Coping with My Scleroderma Soul Fatigue

Not so many years ago, around the time of my diagnosis, I recall having a major hissy fit. I had been invited to a wedding, and I didn’t like how I looked that day. My hair wasn’t right, and I just didn’t like the way my chosen outfit was hanging as I wore it. I spent most of the time leading up to the event fretting and fussing.

But the outcome of the entire day was that no one cared (or even noticed) how my clothes were “hanging,” despite my self-centered concerns and preoccupation with myself.

There have been many such egocentric outbursts over the years. These have ranged from inward feelings of hurt and entitlement when life didn’t always go the way I wanted it to, to outward displays of anger and disappointment toward others when they behaved in a way that I didn’t agree with.

I realize now that some of this was due to immaturity, but it was also an inability to understand that I was being a total prat. I think that I have been spoiled. Back then, I had been blessed with energy and vitality, as well as a life in which things came easily. I had managed to develop a functioning social persona that, while taking some energy to maintain, served me well when mixing with others.

The problem was that my energy levels plummeted when I became unwell. Fatigue is one of the most common, unmanageable issues in scleroderma, and there is very little doctors can do to help. This means physical exertion is difficult.

However, there is also a fatigue of the soul that happens with a terminal illness. I know it intimately, and I know in my bones that others who are seriously unwell also understand this fatigue. We become weary of our own nonsense and that of others. We realize that there is no time or energy for self-created dramatics any longer. We simply do not have the luxury of readily available energy to spare on these things, nor do we have the time left to be bothering with them.

Soul fatigue has changed me, as it inevitably would, of course. It has made me clean up my act. I have no resources to deal with my own petty and unnecessary negativity toward others and myself. That type of inner thinking has had to stop. It’s just too draining and is certainly never useful in any meaningful way at all.

I have also become much more difficult to get to know. New people may have the potential to become energy leeches. I need to maintain clear, impenetrable boundaries to covet and protect what little and precious energy I have available.

Sadly, my soul fatigue has also caused me to become hyper-aware of the innumerable amounts of nonsense people generate in this world. There seem to be many who desire power and control, and who are insatiable attention seekers, both at the level of common people right up to some world leaders.

There’s a hard edge that has developed around me, a protective cover, and I’m not available for other people the way I used to be. The world may not like the cynicism I have developed, however, I don’t care to be concerned about that any longer, either.

Has my soul fatigue brought about positive or negative changes in the long run? I’m still not sure. Perhaps those looking at me from the outside would say my resulting self-protection looks like I am unavailable and intolerant.

However, on the inside, I know I have become more careful about allowing any negative and trivial thoughts about myself and others in my head. I have become less concerned with drawing attention to myself to gain approval and more concerned with just enjoying simple things for the time I have left, however long or short — such as nature, the seasons, the unwavering love of my husband and family.

Is soul fatigue with scleroderma a help or a hindrance? You decide.

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