Reflecting on Two Decades of Pain and Triumph With Scleroderma
Last year, I celebrated the 21st anniversary of my initial diagnosis of systemic scleroderma. Well, it wasn’t really a celebration, and I didn’t have a party with balloons and confetti. It was more of a moment of mourning for the life I had lived before my scleroderma diagnosis, followed by a moment of gratitude because I’ve made it this far.
Life hasn’t been easy, that’s for sure. I’ve had days when I simply didn’t want to be on this earth anymore. Days when the simple act of lifting my head from the pillow was the toughest of challenges. Some days I would’ve given just about anything not to be in my body.
Living with scleroderma is the hardest challenge I’ve faced in my life. This disease is something I can’t fully explain in words. But each day I wake up and do it over, again and again.
I was diagnosed at the age of 19 and began to quickly advocate for myself to find a coordinative care team. Living with this disease has been a roller coaster of emotions and physical ailments. I’ve had over 30 medical procedures, from a lung biopsy to teeth extractions and everything in between. I’ve been in the hospital over a dozen times and in ambulances more times than I care to count.
The daily pain I endure would make even the toughest of people break down. Dealing with the feeling of being unable to live a life of normalcy and to grow old with a partner or loved ones made me feel extremely depressed and overwhelmed. I often envied other people and how carefree they all seemed to be. Having to physically wade through the minutiae of daily tasks I could no longer accomplish would make any sane person lose hope.
Twenty-one years is a long time to be sick. Each day is a new struggle to find balance in my life with scleroderma. This disease doesn’t affect only one facet of my life — it affects practically my entire body. My skin is hard, tight, and itchy. Over the years, my lungs have developed fibrosis, or scarring, which makes breathing extremely difficult.
Two summers ago, I had a pretty big health scare. Out of nowhere, I had a cardiac event called ventricular tachycardia and was rushed to the hospital by ambulance during the height of the COVID-19 pandemic. It was a pretty serious situation, and I was all alone. I had no one by my side and was without the doctors and specialists who have my complete trust and confidence.
Everything I’d gone through before that moment seemed to burst into the forefront of my mind, allowing me to see things crystal clear. I was able to slow down, breathe, and explain to the hospital staff exactly what was going on and why. I spoke clearly, concisely, and without hesitation. On that day, I’m convinced, I saved my own life.
Living through that experience changed me. It made me feel extremely grateful for my team of doctors and specialists. It allowed me to appreciate what I have been through over the years, because if not for all of those bumps in the road, I wouldn’t have had the wherewithal to trust my gut. I wouldn’t have been able to articulate to the local hospital staff exactly what was happening to my body.
I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. At the beginning of my scleroderma diagnosis, I couldn’t find a reason why this awful thing had happened to me. Now, 21 years later, I might not have all the answers, but one thing I do know is that this disease has changed me completely. It’s allowed me to speak up, trust my instincts, and most important, to lead by example. I can’t think of a better way than that to turn a negative into a positive!
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