Times of Stress Demand that I Create Space to Heal

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by Kim Tocker |

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Scleroderma and the Ordinary Girl

These last few weeks have been some of the worst I can remember. Not only have I been trying to process the terror attack in my hometown, but also we had to say farewell to our beautiful old ginger tabby cat Otis, who we were lucky to have had for almost 20 years.  

Everything has been extremely overwhelming, and my poor old scleroderma body has been thrown into disarray, producing clusters of flare-up symptoms ranging from painful joints and achy muscles and tendons to extreme fatigue and increased breathing issues.  

These types of acute flare-ups are common for me, particularly when I am under an unusual amount of stress. Over the past few years, I have worked hard at finding ways to get through these rough periods. Consequently, I have now collected a number of strategies that can work for me (although often very slowly). These include meditation, paying special attention to a healthy diet, short naps during the day, and listening to helpful music, among others.

However, although I have been able to make a collection of ideas to help myself, I am dismayed to have realized that this is only half the job.

This assemblage of helpful strategies has no value unless I have the correct conditions to actually practice them. The practical problem that has thwarted my entire operation is that I have not been ensuring that I have the imperative space required to actually execute the techniques that help me to heal. I have found anything I am able to achieve is reduced in terms of effectiveness, and progress is slow.  

So what does “space to heal” actually refer to? For me, it is a combination of the availability of copious amounts of time coupled with peace and quiet without the distractions that can use up any small amount of energy that I may have available. Having scleroderma means any energy I do have available is few and far between.

The biggest issue has been my naivete about unhelpful things that have made their way into my life over time, seemingly harmless matters that I have normalized. However, these things have crowded my life and robbed me of the space I need to practice my healing techniques. They include constant “mind noise” and anxiety-producing stimulation, such as unnecessarily graphic news reports, many types of movies, toxic conversations with angry people, and social media.  

In particular, I have realized that social media is quite an illusion. I used to sit in the lounge with my computer, browsing various social media platforms, which gave me the impression I was spending peaceful time on my own. However, the constant streams of loud opinions, graphic material, and stimulating visuals are almost like having a group of people having a party in my lounge all the time!

Recently, one of the most helpful things I have done to help create some space for healing has been to shut down my social media accounts. (If any of my readers has noticed my absence online, please do not take this personally — you are very welcome to connect with me through my email.) It has helped a great deal to quiet the time I have available.

In terms of creating more time to practice my healing techniques, it has also been very important to reduce my social calendar (despite it being pretty limited to begin with). Those who truly value my friendship have been completely understanding. Those who aren’t bothered by my absence were probably not that thrilled with my presence in the first place anyway.  

Creating my space has meant I have had to make difficult decisions and reduce my life of some things, which has felt temporarily uncomfortable. However, my inner peace has increased, and without doubt, my healing strategies are working much more effectively.

Everyone will differ in what is present in their life that interferes with healing space, but whatever those things are, I highly recommend attending to them. Creating those important spaces results in clarity, peace, quiet, and time to heal — just what the doctor ordered!


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